Sunday #1 pt2

Once the singing was over, the next event took place. We sat down again, and the Disciple at the front began the first part (of four) of this relationships talk thing that they'd organised.

Truth be told, I only really remember the parts that made me feel ill:

• Modesty, for the purpose of shielding our Christian Brothers from lust - how misogynistic! Looks like it's our own fault for being "tempting" should we be raped... Gives the boys themselves a bad rap, too - they can protect themselves from every other sin (with Jesus, of course), but we need to help them when it's this one? Bullshit.
• Don't get too close to boys before you are married, or your future husband won't want you. Embelished upon by a "Blind Date" sketch in which we had a Girl#1, Girl#2 and Girl#3 who were discribed as identical triplets exept with different sexual statuses - a "slut", a girl who had "had boyfriends", and a virgin who had had no boyfriends ever because she was "saving herself for her husband". Decidedly squicky, especially how they chanted "#3! #3!" at the question.
• An Adam and Eve bit - "Women were created to be attractive to men!" Speaks for itself, I think....

There was a bit about different types of love - apparently it can be divided into Infatuation, Lust and Love (which itself is spilt into "Love If" (Love conditional upon X changing), "Love Because" (Love conditional upon X staying the same); and "Love Full Stop" (unconditional Love), with the latter being favourable all the time.)

It seems to me that those kinds of definitions aren't really helpful or useful. Relationships change, and people look for different things when pursuing someone. It's no good having unconditional love for an abusive spouse after all - well, in the rehabilitation sense it would be, but definitely not in the absolute trust sense.

There will be a part three, on the "groupwork" afterwards - but I'm having trouble getting to keyboards at the moment. Or rather: I'm having trouble getting to keyboards which are connected to the internet via tech. Such are the perils, I suppose.